please help me!

[miss_kw]

hey,
my name is Kiri and my boyfriend wants to join the army. he is 16 years old and i know this is his life dream. he did want to join when we started going out but then decided to get an education first. now school isn't his thing anymore so wants to join the army. he is medically cleared and waiting for a letter regarding the selection. i was told this 2 days ago. since then i have been confused. we are both 16 but very much in love and have been through so much and we both want a future together. but i am so confused. am i being selfish in that i don't want him to go? i don't want him leaving or getting killed, is that selfish? so far he has only been talking about what he is going to be doing and hasn't asked me about my thoughts on it, and i am devasted and i only found out 2 days ago! he could be leaving me in about 4 months and i will be so lost. i am going to miss him so much and don't know how to cope.
he wants to join either the paratroopers or the tank regiment.
How long will training be?
Could he posted abroad?
what is the minimum he has to join for?
i love him so much but feel so upset. what can i do?
is there anyone out there who is or was in my position who can help me?
thanks alot
love Kiri
xXx

[Bovie]

Well, i aint no good on sympathy or anything so i cant help you there. but i can help on;

How long will training be?

I belive basic training is 25 weeks, and you get a week break every 8 week's, i think (my mate has done that)

Could he posted abroad?

He'll most definetly be posted abroad.

what is the minimum he has to join for?

i belive its three years after training.

Hope this help's

Bovie, out.

[lew]

I believe there's a families section to this forum, you may you may find some infomation there...

lew

[Tab]

Well at 16 he wont get posted abroad, now I can't think of a line Regiment that will take a 16 year old. The Para's wont touch him at the age of 16 years, so that leaves the tank regiment, now they might just still take him but I doubt it.

[Mal]

He wont be able to join the paras untill he is 18. You may want to mention to him about going to an army foundation collage first. There he will get a taste of some military style activities, and also get his education

[Space Cadet]

parachute regiment take you from age 16 - 9 months with parental concent..

as he will be under 18 he wont be posted abroad as said by Tab..

so you could prolly see him every weekend if he makes the trip back to where-ever you live..

[flo]

Honey it may sound hard but if you love him let him go. He will go away a boy but come back a man and if your relationship is to survive in forces life the simple rule of understanding is stand by your man, not in front of him.

[Sticky Blue]

stand by your man, not in front of him.

Outstanding words and very true.

[flo]

Sticky as you and me both well know the true path to marital bliss is a team effort, but it is especially hard in the forces but if the lass in question is interested i have just written a piece for Prima Baby magazine and it should be in the july or august edition about being married to a serving Royal Marine. It is a true account of being a 'single' parent without the added benefits. i have told it like it is no frills and definately no cover ups. But i wouldnt swap it for the world it is like being on a constant date, the highs and lows of saying goodbye in times of conflict but the elation in preparing yourself and the family for the homecoming - nothing can beat that. But then i am one of the lucky ones whos hubby did come home.

[Clown]

Your young and to be honest I really think you should let him get on with his life, if he's a para trooper (which take p company and you wil not see him much during this period at all, and he will have to wait a good few years before he can be one) then he'll be based away from you and to be brutilly honest the temptations he will have to face does not bare thinking about and it is not worth putting you through the pain and hassle, I know it's not what you want to here but if this is he mind set then I really advise you to move on and try to get on with your life.

[flo]

Clown, check out yer dates mate.

[Chappy]

She`ll be up the duff and he will be down the job centre about now.

[Clown]

She`ll be up the duff and he will be down the job centre about now.

LOL sounds about right!!!

[Jack]

i love him so much but feel so upset. what can i do?

Are you close with his family? His mother imparticular. If you have someone else whose in the same boat as you regarding your concern for his welfare then it'll surely take the sting out of him not being there, rather than going over it in your own head and most likely over panicking yourself. A mother (or father) would make a good companion to share your feelings with.

If he goes for the Paras then the training will be for 7months (as far as I know).

You only knew of this 2days ago? Are your feelings for eachother mutual?

If your really distressed I could give you my girlfriends email address, as she is in the same situation as you. I'm 17 (near enough 18 really) and joining the Para's.

Cheers,
Jack.

[harry hackedoff]

Don`t tell`em your name, Pike.
Pay attention at the back, ffs


You`re slacking here Doc.
And it`s not the first time, neever
Sort yer self out Shadders