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Hi, im Adam, im aged 16, i have been at home since i left school and i have had enough ov going out finding jobs, but not getting any,my parents have started complaining, i have thought about joining the Royal Navy, as a Operator Mecanic (Communications) as that seems right for me, i have a interest in computers etc..... But.... This would be a big step for me, leaving home etc.. i have been thinking about it over the past few days, looking at the site, the things that go on, on the vidieos really appeal to me, but am i tough enough??? I keep asking myself that. Will i break down and cry? want to leave the job i want? I have been brought up in a nice family were everything was done for me.. and now i want to leave and go fend for myself.. but i dont know what i am geting into.. I would LOVE to get into The Royal Navy, Being away from My Home Country, Exploring the world.. Helping My Country... A job.. FOR LIFE! But still the doubt in the back of my mind.. Is this Right for me??? I would like someone To explain the goings on in the navy Life, and then i can decide if i want to join... i cant live my life how i do anymore.... Thanks for your time... Im going to wait for a reply (if i get one) and think about it some more.....
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First Hi and welcome to the forum Adam 
I know how you feel mate, at first I wasn't sure if I would fit into the army. So I decide to join the TA to get a better of idea of what army life is like. All I can say is try it you never know, if you don't like it I'm sure they can sort some thing out for you.
Try asking some navy boy's they will know more than me.
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I know how you feel mate, at first I wasn't sure if I would fit into the army. So I decide to join the TA to get a better of idea of what army life is like. All I can say is try it you never know, if you don't like it I'm sure they can sort some thing out for you.
Try asking some navy boy's they will know more than me.
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Welcome Adam.
Whatever you decide Adam you are going to need the support of your parents as you will need their consent to join until you are 18 years of age. Have you discussed it with them? If not suggest you get as much information as you can about the Royal Navy, what trades they can offer (dependent mainly upon your qualifications), how long you would have to serve for, how long the training is etc.
You may be surprised at their support or lack of it - parents seem to have definite views on joining the forces- either way, but your background suggests at your young age without their support you are going to find it tough to join and cope with the inevitable home sickness.
You're going to need to talk it through with them so be prepared and have the facts to hand. Good luck on whatever you decide.
Whatever you decide Adam you are going to need the support of your parents as you will need their consent to join until you are 18 years of age. Have you discussed it with them? If not suggest you get as much information as you can about the Royal Navy, what trades they can offer (dependent mainly upon your qualifications), how long you would have to serve for, how long the training is etc.
You may be surprised at their support or lack of it - parents seem to have definite views on joining the forces- either way, but your background suggests at your young age without their support you are going to find it tough to join and cope with the inevitable home sickness.
You're going to need to talk it through with them so be prepared and have the facts to hand. Good luck on whatever you decide.
Adam.
At 16 i was exactly like you in the way that i could not decide if joining the military was for me. I thought that it would ruin my life and that i'd have no contact with my parents and mates (which i laugh at myself now for being so silly but it was scary at the time)
Instead of job hunting i did my A-levels and i'm now at Uni. I found that higher education was what i wanted to do at the time and its helped me figure out that the Army/Navy/RAF is for me, also what i want to do.
Like Jason has done i'm curently a recruit at my local TA Infantry company. This will help me get fitter and more aware and ready for a long successful career in the regs.
The Army run "A Look at Life" weekend(s) which are free and for anyone who fancies a short weekend long insight into what goes on and what you'll be doing. I dont know if the Navy run these sorts of weekends but i hope they do If they do get yourself on one and have a look.
As contractor said you will have to get consent from your mam and dad first.
How about you chat with the people down down at your local Armed forces careers office?
Rob
At 16 i was exactly like you in the way that i could not decide if joining the military was for me. I thought that it would ruin my life and that i'd have no contact with my parents and mates (which i laugh at myself now for being so silly but it was scary at the time)
Instead of job hunting i did my A-levels and i'm now at Uni. I found that higher education was what i wanted to do at the time and its helped me figure out that the Army/Navy/RAF is for me, also what i want to do.
Like Jason has done i'm curently a recruit at my local TA Infantry company. This will help me get fitter and more aware and ready for a long successful career in the regs.
The Army run "A Look at Life" weekend(s) which are free and for anyone who fancies a short weekend long insight into what goes on and what you'll be doing. I dont know if the Navy run these sorts of weekends but i hope they do If they do get yourself on one and have a look.
As contractor said you will have to get consent from your mam and dad first.
How about you chat with the people down down at your local Armed forces careers office?
Rob
My parents suggested it to me quite a while back, but it didnt appeal to me.. but now they havent talked about it, it appeals to me, i spoke to my mum and she thinks its a good idea, and i dont think my dad really gives a **it, everytime i try to talk to him he just ignores me.. then going of to tell my mum what a bad son i am ect..... im glad my mum thinks its a good idea, and if i want to do it, i can push and push myself so i can do it. i am going to see the Carrers about it, and see if i can get an application form etc... This is a big step for me, for just being sat at home, trying to find work to going out and, lets say 'gettting a new life'i have read about training ect, its 6 weeks untill i move onto the side i want to learn which is Operator machanic (Communications) which involves the use of computers which i really enjoy. i would miss my friends but to say my best friend, and my longest friend are both going into the army, i wouldnt see them much anyway.
Adam.
Adam.
Bovie,
Me at 16 is back in the mists of time but like you I lived a sheltered life in a close family. When I did say I was joining the RM my late dear old Mum wanted to know what they had done wrong to make me want to do such a thing. True I had always had a hankering for service life but had done nothing more than Air Training Corps ( and found weekend RAF stations very depressing), but it was still a big step. I chose the Royal Marines, and joined my new intake squad just short of 17, I was young, fresh faced, naive and with a strongish Deryshire accent. For some reason my Squad Drill Instructor (they are now Troops and Drill Leaders) seemed to decide that I was not of the stuff from which Royal Marines are made. He made my first 18 weeks a misery, but also made me determined to prove the bas***d wrong. In those days we joined Lympstone after 18 weeks and picked up a different training team, from that point on, although it was physically hard, I actually started to enjoy it.
Whatever arm you choose RN or whatever, it will be very different to what you have known, some days you will be certain that it was a mistake. But as it all starts to come together and you realise that you are making friends, oppos , you can truly depend on, and depend on for life, you may realise that civvy street can offer nothing on earth like it.
I cannot answer for you, I only know that my time is an experience I would not have missed for the world, I would even suffer those first 18 weeks again for what followed. The choice is yours.
Barry
Me at 16 is back in the mists of time but like you I lived a sheltered life in a close family. When I did say I was joining the RM my late dear old Mum wanted to know what they had done wrong to make me want to do such a thing. True I had always had a hankering for service life but had done nothing more than Air Training Corps ( and found weekend RAF stations very depressing), but it was still a big step. I chose the Royal Marines, and joined my new intake squad just short of 17, I was young, fresh faced, naive and with a strongish Deryshire accent. For some reason my Squad Drill Instructor (they are now Troops and Drill Leaders) seemed to decide that I was not of the stuff from which Royal Marines are made. He made my first 18 weeks a misery, but also made me determined to prove the bas***d wrong. In those days we joined Lympstone after 18 weeks and picked up a different training team, from that point on, although it was physically hard, I actually started to enjoy it.
Whatever arm you choose RN or whatever, it will be very different to what you have known, some days you will be certain that it was a mistake. But as it all starts to come together and you realise that you are making friends, oppos , you can truly depend on, and depend on for life, you may realise that civvy street can offer nothing on earth like it.
I cannot answer for you, I only know that my time is an experience I would not have missed for the world, I would even suffer those first 18 weeks again for what followed. The choice is yours.
Barry
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Adam welcome,I cant remember being 16 its so long ago.
I agree with the others you do need support from your parents,they will be worried.But put it this way would they rather see you with a career and a good career after you leave the navy (with a pension)or hanging around getting into trouble taking drugs and generally being a pain in the arse like the some of the sixteen year olds in Brittain.
If you asked all the service men and women if they regret joining up id say 98% would say no.
You have nothing to lose you are only young,try it,or theres that other option,
MCDONALDS
I agree with the others you do need support from your parents,they will be worried.But put it this way would they rather see you with a career and a good career after you leave the navy (with a pension)or hanging around getting into trouble taking drugs and generally being a pain in the arse like the some of the sixteen year olds in Brittain.
If you asked all the service men and women if they regret joining up id say 98% would say no.
You have nothing to lose you are only young,try it,or theres that other option,
MCDONALDS
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Adam, I like Jason and rob had the same thoughts and feelings as you are having, and after all its a hell of a big decision to make, so I, like Jason and rob signed up to the TA...
I’ve recently got back from pirbright ATR, it was brilliant, I loved the life style, and didn’t want to leave, I liked it so much I thought about dropping out of college and joining a line regiment just to get that feeling again...
Just jump in mate, that’s the only advice I can offer you, if you like it brilliant, if you don’t your young enough to have a crack at something else...
Best O luck
lew
I’ve recently got back from pirbright ATR, it was brilliant, I loved the life style, and didn’t want to leave, I liked it so much I thought about dropping out of college and joining a line regiment just to get that feeling again...
Just jump in mate, that’s the only advice I can offer you, if you like it brilliant, if you don’t your young enough to have a crack at something else...
Best O luck
lew
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hi adam
I didnt have the nice family life that you described when I joined the army but I can understand what you mean and how you must be feeling.
The advice you have been given up to now is good, I wouldnt expect anything else, so all I have to say is that I spent 12 years in the Royal artillery and it was the best and most exciting time of my life, not to mention challenging and rewarding.
I know the army is a far cry from the Navy but it is still a disciplined service.
Give it a go, and I mean some real effort not just join and then sack it coz your missing your family and the easy life you left behind.
You will, in my opinion be very suprised and thankful of the encouragement you have received on Military Forums.
all the best buddy and good luck
I didnt have the nice family life that you described when I joined the army but I can understand what you mean and how you must be feeling.
The advice you have been given up to now is good, I wouldnt expect anything else, so all I have to say is that I spent 12 years in the Royal artillery and it was the best and most exciting time of my life, not to mention challenging and rewarding.
I know the army is a far cry from the Navy but it is still a disciplined service.
Give it a go, and I mean some real effort not just join and then sack it coz your missing your family and the easy life you left behind.
You will, in my opinion be very suprised and thankful of the encouragement you have received on Military Forums.
all the best buddy and good luck
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oh to be 16 again............listen mate it's a big wide world just gagging to be explored and what better way to do it than to join a service and get some money for doing it..........just look at it as one big gap year but carrying a gun !!!, i did 10 years as RMP and it was the best time of my life, even the crap things now look good, it's obviously not to everyones taste but i think you will enjoy it, cutting the strings with home will be hard but im sure you will get the supprt needed from your mam and dad.
there is no question mate...........if you don't join up you will always wonder what it would have been like if you had, war films will never be the same again.............good luck in your choice anyway and may i suggest THE ROYAL MILITARY POLICE.........you know it makes sense.
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there is no question mate...........if you don't join up you will always wonder what it would have been like if you had, war films will never be the same again.............good luck in your choice anyway and may i suggest THE ROYAL MILITARY POLICE.........you know it makes sense.
"Even father christmas wears a red cap"
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"Do not confuse your rank with my authority....Sir!"
Hi mate, I've been where you are now I too joined the Navy at 16, really cause it's what I wanted growing up in South London I did'nt want to end up like all my old mates either banged up or boxed up. You really need to have the support of your parents, one because they have to sign the consent form and two it's good to come home on your first weekend and have the cash to take your family out for a few beers or a meal. I'll never forget my old dear saying my passing out was one of the proudest days of her life. I'm not gonna lie and say its all easy cause anyone who's been there knows its not, everyone has different problems to overcome. You do have one advantage, if you join you can still leave as an unhappy junior before your 18, unlike the elders who once their voluntry redundency expires usally after about 10 weeks they have a 4 year return of service. But training is all bull, it's nothing like it is out in the fleet, your make some good friends and some great friends, working hard and playing harder, your go to and see some good bits but like any job it has downfalls, its just usally lying on a beach in Barbados that makes you remember why you signed up. What I'm trying to say really is give it a go your either love it and it wll become your life or you won't, but thats not the end of the world. Your joining at a time of great change with the implication of TOPMAST you now have even more control over your career. Just give it a shot mate and Good Luck
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