What does your girlfriend think?

[ADDiction]

When you tell her how hard it will be to maintain a relationship when you are out in Iraq.

Any members experienced this?

A mate of mine split up with his girl three months before he joined the army, then just went out and had fun. He swore he would not start another relationship before he went in, because he knows what a girl you never see can do to your head.

I think he got it right, I couldn't deal with the intensity of training or deployment, aswell as only being able to dream about my girl at night.

[bird]

My Mrs has said to me that Education comes before me, I have always said that the RM always comes before her it's a mutual agreement. I agree with you that juggling a mrs and forces life isn't very easy! Though someone with actual experience on the matter I'm sure could expand!

[LostandFound]

My wench has mixed feelings. Happy that Im pursuing what I want to do, unhappy Ill be getting shot at for a living. I supported her when she was away at uni, so its her turn to support me now. Ive no intention of binning her off (being an old fart at 27, Im quite happy with the relationship thing) but I suppose only time will tell whether the distance will be a problem.

[fodd]

My wench has mixed feelings. Happy that Im pursuing what I want to do, unhappy Ill be getting shot at for a living. I supported her when she was away at uni, so its her turn to support me now. Ive no intention of binning her off (being an old fart at 27, Im quite happy with the relationship thing) but I suppose only time will tell whether the distance will be a problem.

haha but wat happens with the lads stays with the lads you stil got to have fun

[LostandFound]

My wench has mixed feelings. Happy that Im pursuing what I want to do, unhappy Ill be getting shot at for a living. I supported her when she was away at uni, so its her turn to support me now. Ive no intention of binning her off (being an old fart at 27, Im quite happy with the relationship thing) but I suppose only time will tell whether the distance will be a problem.

haha but wat happens with the lads stays with the lads you stil got to have fun

I couldnt agree more

[ADDiction]

I'd rather not wait to find out whether the distance will be a problem, and just split early to keep it simple. Obviously in most cases it will never be that easy......God help me....I hate women .

[Macca]

I've told my Miss all about the Marines and she has looked into it in depth and understands what i am going to be doing as a career (if i pass the training ) and she knows its my dream so she wants me to go for it all the way. I've also explained to her that there will be times where she won't be able to see me for long periods of time ect and she is still up for me going away. I have no intesion of splitting up with her as i think the only way to find out if it works is to try it and if after a few weeks it doesnt seem as though its going to work then we will pack it in and call it a day. I think we can make it work as we are to into eachother and if we get through training then i hope to marry her not long after . Fortunately she doesnt surf on this site

[ali_hire]

Not really been a problem for me, my other half will always support me in whatever I do and the feeling is mutual.

I suppose it's slightly different for us though as we've been together a fairly long time and are pretty settled with the house and that. Kids will be probably be on the way in the next couple of years.

I'm not trying to make out that it'll be easy by any means and I'm sure that joining any part of the services is more suited to a young unattached person.

[ADDiction]

Listen to you with your supportive women you make me sick . When it was confirmed in February that my PRMC would indeed be delayed for atleast six months, I broke the news to my girlfriend at the time. I was gutted, she replied with "Oh that's good, now we can stay together".

We split first week of March .

[shazza]

Wow very interesting to read what guys think about it I was being nosey...
Well my other half has been in RM training since October now and I would never think twice about stopping him or splitting up because of the distance (+ I live in a different country as well).

I know I can be a pain when I don't hear from him and start texting him stupid stuff, but it's just because I care and I miss him!

Don't you think it also has good sides to actually having a girl. My ex was in the Army and after an 8 month tour in Afghanistan he came back, and said that even though we had our bad times he would have never gotten through it without my support.

He said I kept him sane with all my letters, and pics, and little presents I sent him, and he even said that his mates were jealous because they didn't have anyone who did that.

I was nice enough to send them all a little something over Christmas and always sent sweets to them all just to keep the other lads happy too.

Also got told by a mate who's going RAF that he's gutted he didn't have a chick supporting him through training. I guess everyone sees it differently.

Most of the girls who were with lads in my boyfriend's troop have finished with them because they can't handle it. Some girls are made for it and some aren't.

And I just wanted to say...sometimes I don't think some of you guys realise how hard it is for the ones waiting at home! If you're lucky enough to have a girl who waits for you, you should appreciate it, because not every girl would put up with some of the stuff they have to.

xx

What a marathon effort correcting that post was! Next time I'll just delete it instead. Please watch your spelling and avoid textspeak in future.

Regards
T_T

[Stokey_14]

wow very interestiny to read what guys think about it i was being nosey...
well my oh has been in rm trainin since october now and i wud never think twice about stoppin him or splitting up cos of the distance (+ i live in a diff country aswell) i kno i can b a pain when i dnt hear from him n start textin him stupid stuff bt its jus cos i care and i miss him! dnt u think it also has good sides to actually havin a girl..My ex was in the army and after 8 month tour in afghan he came bck n said that even tho we had our bad times he wud have never gotten thru it without my support...he said i kept him sane with all my letters n pics n lil presents i send him and he even said that his mates were jelous bcos they didnt have n e one who did that. i was nice enuff to send em all a lil summit over xmas n always sent sweets to em all js to keep the other lads happy to.
Also got told by a mate whos goin RAF that hes gutetd he dnt ave a chick supporting him thru trainin...i guess every1 sees it diff.
most of the girls who were wi lads in ma oh's troop have finished thm bcos they cnt handle it..some girls are made for it and some aint..

and i js wanted to say...sometimes i dnt think some of u guys realise how hard it is for the ones waiting at home! if ur lucky enuff to have a girl who waits for u, ya shud appreciate it cos not every girl wud put up with some of the shit they have to

xx

Having never been in the situation my self I can't really comment on the matter fully, but if you ask me the women who are left at home (along with friends and families) have the toughest job of all, while the Marine is out doing what he’s trained for, 100% confident in his self etc. The women have to wait at home getting very little news, seeing items about dead soldiers and tragedies out there, no body train's them for that.

Hats of to all the women who do cope with it and stand by there partners, supporting them. Don't no if I could do the same in that position.

Just my two pence, like I say can't really make any proper judgment having never been in or witnessed first hand the matter.

All the best

Stokey

P.S. especially agree with this bit... (what i could read of it anyway )

and i js wanted to say...sometimes i dnt think some of u guys realise how hard it is for the ones waiting at home! if ur lucky enuff to have a girl who waits for u, ya shud appreciate it cos not every girl wud put up with some of the shit they have to

[Tartan_Terrier]

Shazza,
You have PM
Regards
T_T

[Recon89]

Dont you think this site is a bit strict on spelling and punctuation? It makes you too worried to even post

[shazza]

Dont you think this site is a bit strict on spelling and punctuation? It makes you too worried to even post

Yes haha

I am so used to text writing, but never mind I will have to get used to writing in full sentences and that anyway hehe

[tom163]

No not really, its common courtesy to write properly and try to use punctuation where needed. There's alot of people who won't even bother reading posts done in text language. It's either learn now the easy way or the much harder way if or when you get into the Army .






Tom