Info for my wife

[Craiginmk]

Hi I’m thinking of joining the army as a driver in the logistics.
I’m 28, my wife is 21 and our daughter is 6 months,
My wife wants to know all the good and bad sides of becoming a soldier’s wife, is there any literature she can reed as to what life will be like for her and the baby?

[JoJo82]

There are a good few spouse military sites online, try http://www.militaryforums.co.uk

There are some very good members on here that can help also.

Good luck
xxxx

[flo]

hi mate,

There are plenty of people on this site who can give you and your wife invaluable information. I myself have been married to a serviceman (Royal Marines) for 11 years but with him nearly 15.We also have three kids. I have lived on Married patches of various military backgrounds and each one is different. I'm not going to lie and say it will be easy because there will be some difficult times. If your wife is a strong character then yes she will be fine, but she must learn to stand up for herself. It is fact that on married patches you have plenty of 'acquaintances' but you will only make one or perhaps two very good friends per posting/draft. But when things do get tough (ie deployment) then everyone rallies around everyone and there is a strong feeling of camaraderie. All camps have a families club and this can be quite a good first step especially if you are new to the game. They provide a wealth of information (some of it can be personal - so wear any personal information close to your chest until you know people better but it is all common sense) and they also organise many events and get togethers. i always find that when i move into a new quarter the first thing i do is knock on my neighbours door and introduce myself and enquire if they have any small children that may be taking a mid afternoon nap as i am away to put some pictures up. That way you are guaranteed that they will reply if you need anything just knock. I then wait till the Friday and say i need a glass of wine as the move has got me knackered and ask if they would like to join me. Tha tway you appear considerate and socialble. It works every time and you have a neighbour you can always rely on and socialise with, so you are never lonely.
Any other questions please feel free to ask or use the Pm button. Even better why not get your wife to register as a member and we can chat away, she would be made more than welcome.

Fiona