Some advice please....

[mu85]

Hi there everybody.....

Im a 20yo male currently working within IT and have been thinking about joining the RAF for a number of years now, im currently in the process of booking appointments to speak to somebody at the careers office.

The advice im after is to do with partners, i have been with my girlfriend now for coming up to 3 years and she is not best pleased about me wanting to join the RAF and is worried about time spent with each other etc, this is putting me off going through with everything as she is very important to me. Was just wondering if anybody else is or was in the same situation and if they can give any advice or info about how often you can see each other or if special living arrangments are made etc.


Any help or advice would be great.

Thanks

[flo]

If she loves you enough she will let you follow your dream. As for seeing each other it is what you make it. When you have leave do you go home and see your girlfriend or do you stay with the boys for a few wets. The choice is in your hands, only you can make that desision. I myself have been a Marine Wife for 10 years and the 3 years spent courting (oh my god that makes me sound old ) were fun, but it was also hard. I myself wouldnt change the lifestyle for a million quid (ok maybe i would) but as ive said in many posts similar to this one, ask her to stand by you not in front. As far as special arrangements for living are concerned you would have to arrange private accomodation as married quarters are for married personnel only. But remember long distance relationships can and do work, dont just chuck it all in because your not sure of the consequences. Try it you (and your partner) may just like it. hope this helps, anymore questions please fire away.

[mu85]

Thanks fot the advice its a great help - i have talked it over her and she is willing to give it a go but has mentioned that if it starts to get too hard she would end it sooner rather than later........dont wanna propose just to get in the marriage quarters btw lol as for leave is that dependent on what role you take on or is there a standard amount?

[RAF Reginald]

Everyone in the RAF gets 30 days annual leave, you also get most weekends off (depending on your trade), plus you'll get other stand downs on top of that. Once you finish work you are your own man, do what you want (within reason!). Go for it mate, you'll regret it if you don't. I joined up after hearing blokes who had sat in an office all their lives saying they wished they had done something more interesting. As for your missus,k you'll make that many great mates, you won't mind her binning it! Good luck.

[chrispob]

ive just finished my basic training at Halton and like you i have a long term girlfriend, although she is important to me i would never let her stand in the way of my raf career as so far its great. you could only move into a raf house with her if you are married.

the main point from me mate is get signed up, if she is the right person it will work out, if she isnt well ull have a great life anyways meeting loads of new people.

good luck

[Heinkle]

DUDE! Get married then you can follow your dream and have relations your wife in your house together after a long day down the range! LOL!!!!!

Heinkle

[RAF Reginald]

Heinkle, unless he's planning on joining the Regiment, the chances of him spending "a long day down the range" are minimal!!

[flo]

Boys while your 'experience' is probably appreciated by some , please remember you are still singlies 'if you are even fortunate enough to be in the services' then do you really think your 'advice' is worthy. You are not in serious relationships so please dont give advice unless you know whats what or what you wish!!! There is a huge difference. Wait untill you are old hands/sweats etc before you give the old relationship advice. For all you know you could end something before its even begun. If the couple are strong enough they will find a way to sort things but mediocer advice by singlies means nothing to those either considering a or in a serious relationship.

Take each day as it comes it makes you a stonger person if you learn by mistakes.

[Hostage_Negotiator]

Consider yourselves spanked!
However Flo has a point! It's hardly fair to try to influence if you have no personal experience of the subject!

[Sticky Blue]

Unless he is a time lord

"a long day down the range"

all days are the same length

In all affairs of the heart... always follow the head (providing the head isn't on the genital guidance system)

[RAF Reginald]

Fair one Flo, although he may have come to the wrong place if he's after sensitive, caring advice!

[flo]

Fair one Flo, although he may have come to the wrong place if he's after sensitive, caring advice!

Come on lads i know you wear pink marigolds with fluffy feathers when doing your dishes......................we can do both caring and taking the michael.

[RAF Reginald]

Flo, the accuracy of your last description leads me to believe my privacy has been violated! I haven't even got a webcam.

[flo]

Big Mama is watching

[Doc]

Big Mama is watching

could you tell me where my last artic sock went then, as in the frenzy its gone awol, Ive even checked the ceiling